The difference between real growth and false comfort…
Lately, I’ve been noticing a growing pattern inside the wellness and spiritual spaces—and maybe you’ve seen it too.
The thing is REAL growth doesn’t happen in a workshop or on a retreat—it happens when you come home and LIVE it.
People are being financially exploited and spiritually hooked into groups, teachings, and “ways of being” that don’t feel grounded in reality. What starts out as a search for meaning or healing can turn into a cycle of dependency—on the group, the leader, the endless retreats or promises of “the next awakening.”
True growth integrates, transforms, and empowers.
Instead of freedom, people get lost. Instead of empowerment, they get addicted. And that breaks my heart.
The truth is that when you are on a true healing journey, the practices you do and the support you receive should help you integrate the work into your daily life. That way, you come home and make actual changes in how you live, love, and lead yourself. Your relationships, your family, and your sense of self should all feel the ripple effects.
Awakening isn’t what happens in the circle—it’s how you live outside of it.
But too often, I see the opposite. These groups don’t hold people accountable. Instead, they coddle and over-validate so that you feel good in the moment—but never actually grow. And without integration, the experience doesn’t translate into lasting change. The work loses its power, and instead of embodying growth in your most important relationships and daily life, you find yourself cycling back, craving that familiar sense of connection and belonging outside of yourself.
It becomes a loop—returning again and again to grasp at community, rather than standing rooted in it within your own life. True healing should sustain you long after the circle ends, helping you cultivate connection where it matters most: at home.
Here’s the invitation I want to offer you instead:
Pause. Breathe. Ask yourself:
Is this practice helping me live with more clarity, presence, and love when I’m back home?
Or is it just making me dependent on the next session, the next coach, the next retreat?
Real growth is sometimes uncomfortable. It asks you to face yourself, take responsibility, and step into your own power. That’s what leads to transformation—change that benefits not only you, but everyone connected to you.
That’s what I believe in—and it’s the heart of every retreat I lead.
